The time has come to sit down and detail all my faults. What am I doing wrong? How am I inadequate? This practice is better known as making New Year’s resolutions.

Why do we do this to ourselves each year directly after spending 2 months being thankful for all of the blessings we have been given? My Christmas presents aren’t even all put away yet, but here I am, thinking of things that I need to change to be better.

Well, I am here to say that I am NOT setting a New Year’s resolution. Statistics say that only 7-8% of people who make New Year’s resolutions stick to them (that’s a 92% FAILURE rate!) The majority of resolutions dissolve within 1 week. Why set yourself up for failure? Why not take time to reflect on your blessings and change when you are ready, not when the calendar flips?

I’m not saying that we shouldn’t strive to be better, but many times the goals we set for January 1st aren’t realistic. Maybe the timing is off, our environment isn’t conducive, finances aren’t in place, or our hearts (and minds) aren’t really committed to the change.

So this January, I’m not going to vow to lose weight, eat better, get organized, write a book, save more or spend less. I’m going to enjoy the crazy, over-filled life that I have. I am going to accept the fact that I am not perfect. My flaws make me who I am. If, along the way I feel motivated to change, then so be it. But I won’t feel pressured to live up to other’s expectations of me.

Here’s to a happy and healthy 2014!